As the father of an eight year old girl I truly appreciate this. Working my hardest to show her a level playing field but I always need to be reminded that the perspective I try to show her is not necessarily the perspective she will see.
I know, it's so hard knowing that no matter what we do as parents, there are so many other experiences and factors out there. It's awesome that she has a parent with your perspective to start!
Really insightful and introspective piece. I am not "all there" yet - but it wasn't until at least in my 40s that I finally realized that the way I saw/felt the world was NOT the same as what women saw. A big big wake up for me was going to an all-women tech conference and feeling very out of place as one of very few men.
Thanks, Mark. I think whatever perspective we have, it takes a while to actually become cognizant of the water we swim in. I imagine that tech conference definitely would be eye opening!
This feeling started for me around the time I hit perimenopause. I’m growing a sense of no longer caring what other people think. It hangs around with rage over it all as well. Good times.
I've been thinking about the growing number of women who are delaying motherhood until their 40s, and wondering how many people are basically riding the hormonal upheaval of pregnancy/birth/postpartum right into perimenopause. Phew.
Love this article! I am in my early 40s with 3 kids but they are all in their teens now. For me I still felt insecure, questioning, etc after they were born. Not sure of my place, purpose or how I was going about it most days. I wonder almost of this new “fuck you eyes” is an age thing. 😂😂. Cause mine hit in the 40s and another friend agreed with me. It is definitely something I wish I had in my 20s… that belief that I didn’t need to prove or explain myself to anyone.
Maybe it IS an age thing ... I've been reading and talking to friends about menopause and thinking there's a powerful combo of age/experience and hormones that contribute to a shift in attitude. A perk of getting older, I guess. ;)
I’m really excited to have found your writing from a little hint from your partner’s newsletter. This is a great essay, beautifully written, and I really appreciate what you are sharing.
As the father of an eight year old girl I truly appreciate this. Working my hardest to show her a level playing field but I always need to be reminded that the perspective I try to show her is not necessarily the perspective she will see.
I know, it's so hard knowing that no matter what we do as parents, there are so many other experiences and factors out there. It's awesome that she has a parent with your perspective to start!
Really insightful and introspective piece. I am not "all there" yet - but it wasn't until at least in my 40s that I finally realized that the way I saw/felt the world was NOT the same as what women saw. A big big wake up for me was going to an all-women tech conference and feeling very out of place as one of very few men.
Thanks, Mark. I think whatever perspective we have, it takes a while to actually become cognizant of the water we swim in. I imagine that tech conference definitely would be eye opening!
This feeling started for me around the time I hit perimenopause. I’m growing a sense of no longer caring what other people think. It hangs around with rage over it all as well. Good times.
I've been thinking about the growing number of women who are delaying motherhood until their 40s, and wondering how many people are basically riding the hormonal upheaval of pregnancy/birth/postpartum right into perimenopause. Phew.
Oh boy. Yeah, I wonder.
Wow! White men don't even know that they have this ease! You articulated something that I have know all my life-74+ years. Great Writing!
Love this article! I am in my early 40s with 3 kids but they are all in their teens now. For me I still felt insecure, questioning, etc after they were born. Not sure of my place, purpose or how I was going about it most days. I wonder almost of this new “fuck you eyes” is an age thing. 😂😂. Cause mine hit in the 40s and another friend agreed with me. It is definitely something I wish I had in my 20s… that belief that I didn’t need to prove or explain myself to anyone.
Maybe it IS an age thing ... I've been reading and talking to friends about menopause and thinking there's a powerful combo of age/experience and hormones that contribute to a shift in attitude. A perk of getting older, I guess. ;)
So so so good
I’m really excited to have found your writing from a little hint from your partner’s newsletter. This is a great essay, beautifully written, and I really appreciate what you are sharing.
Thanks, Maureen. I appreciate the kind words!
Super powerful piece, Hilary.
thank you!